Love Relationship Cycle

Assalamualaikum w.b.t.

Hye, well to be honest, I am so not the one who should talk about love relationship, since I'm not into it. Truthfully, as what I understand about LOVE, the feeling shared between a women and a man, it is a gift from Allah. Well, when Allah give you something, there's must be a reason for you to understand and a lesson to be learned. I won't say much about this, since I had wrote about love on my previous post : Cinta, Rumahtangga dan Syurga. 

But here I wanna share an article from facebook's wall post that caught my attention. A simple and well written about the love relationship cycle. It's kinda true I guess. hehe.. However, in my opinion, if the relationship is for the sake of Allah, InsyaAllah, He will help us to keep the relationship untill jannah. 

As long as we well take care of our relationship with Allah, then Allah will take care the rest of other relationships, InsyaAllah...  

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AM I WITH THE RIGHT PARTNER?

During a seminar, a woman asked," How do I know if I am with the right person?"

The author then noticed that there was a large man sitting next to her so he said, "It depends. Is that your partner?" In all seriousness, she answered "How do you know?" Let me answer this question because the chances are good that it's weighing on your mind replied the author.

Here's the answer.

Every relationship has a cycle… In the beginning; you fall in love with your partner. You anticipate their calls, want their touch, and like their idiosyncrasies. Falling in love wasn't hard. In fact, it was a completely natural and spontaneous experience. You didn't have to DO anything. That's why it's called "falling" in love.

People in love sometimes say, "I was swept of my feet."Picture the expression. It implies that you were just standing there; doing nothing, and then something happened TO YOU.

Falling in love is a passive and spontaneous experience. But after a few months or years of being together, the euphoria of love fades. It's a natural cycle of EVERY relationship.

Slowly but surely, phone calls become a bother (if they come at all), touch is not always welcome (when it happens), and your spouse's idiosyncrasies, instead of being cute, drive you nuts. The symptoms of this stage vary with every relationship; you will notice a dramatic difference between the initial stage when you were in love and a much duller or even angry subsequent stage.

At this point, you and/or your partner might start asking, "Am I with the right person?" And as you reflect on the euphoria of the love you once had, you may begin to desire that experience with someone else. This is when relationships breakdown.

The key to succeeding in a relationship is not finding the right person; it's learning to love the person you found.

People blame their partners for their unhappiness and look outside for fulfillment. Extramarital fulfillment comes in all shapes and sizes.

Infidelity is the most common. But sometimes people turn to work, a hobby, friendship, excessive TV, or abusive substances. But the answer to this dilemma does NOT lie outside your relationship. It lies within it.

I'm not saying that you couldn't fall in love with someone else. You could. And TEMPORARILY you'd feel better. But you'd be in the same situation a few years later.

Because (listen carefully to this):

The key to succeeding in a Relationship is not finding the right person; it's learning to love the Person you found.

SUSTAINING love is not a passive or spontaneous experience. You have to work on it day in and day out. It takes time, effort, and energy. And most importantly, it demands WISDOM. You have to know WHAT TO DO to make it work. Make no mistake about it.

Love is NOT a mystery. There are specific things you can do (with or without your partner), Just as there are physical laws Of the universe (such as gravity), there are also laws for relationships. If you know how to apply these laws, the results are predictable.

Love is therefore a "decision". Not just a feeling.

Remember this always: God determines who walks into your life. It is up to you to decide who you let walk away, who you let stay, and who you refuse to let GO.

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Mama

"Mama"

She used to be my only enemy and never let me free, 

Catching me in places that I know I shouldn't be, 

Ever other day I crossed the line, I didn't mean to be so bad, 

I never thought you would become the friend I never had, 

Back then I didn't know why, why you were misunderstood, 

So now I see through your eyes, all that you did was love, 

Mama I love you, Mama I care, 

Mama I love you, Mama my friend, 

My friend 

I didn't want to hear it then but I'm not ashamed to say it now, 

Every little thing you said and did was right for me, 

I had alot of time to think about, about the way I used to be, 

Never had a sense of my responsibilty 

Back then I didn't know why, why you were misunderstood, 

So now I see through your eyes, all that you did was love, 

Mama I love you, Mama I care, 

Mama I love you, Mama my friend, 

My friend 

But now I'm sure I know why, why you were misunderstood, 

So now I see through your eyes, all I can give you is love, 

Mama I love you, Mama I care, 

Mama I love you, Mama my friend, 

My friend 

Mama I love you, Mama I care, 

Mama I love you, Mama my friend, 

My friend

Tears on my eyes when  I was listening to this song, MAMA by Spice Girls playing on the radio at this night hours. The lyric is indeed how I felt.

I miss you so much Mama. and of course you too my dear abah.

*homesick mode*

Aku telah Jatuh Cinta .

Assalamualaikum w.b.t..

Simple update tentang hal malam semalam, aku pergi program Mahabbah Rasulullah yg diadakan di DTSP, USM. Niat aku memang satu, moga aku makin kenal Rasulullah, moga aku makin mencintai Baginda, ya aku benar- benar ingin belajar mencintai Rasulullah sepenuh hati. 

Semuanya bermula beberapa bulan dulu, ada seorang kawan aku ni, dia sangat-sangat mencintai Nabi Muhammad.. aku pun cakap yg aku pun sayangkan Rasulullah, tapi dia, perasaan dia lain. Perasaan yg dia rasa benar- benar lain. Bukan hanya dimulut seperti aku. Tapi dia, bercakap cintakan Rasulullah memang benar- benar ikhlas dari hatinya, memang benar- benar jujur. Sampaikan, dia selalu menangis bila mengenangkan Rasulullah. Betapa cinta dan rindunya dia pada Rasulullah. Subhanallah... Sungguh, aku betul- betul cemburu kerana dia mempunyai perasaan yg begitu mendalam. 

Aku sedar yang Iman aku masih terlalu kurang, masih terlalu mentah. Sebab ayat cinta aku kepada Rasulullah, hanya dimulut, aku masih tak dapat rasakan sepenuh hati. Astargfirullahalazim... Malunya aku.. mengaku hamba Allah, mengaku umat nabi Muhammad, tapi cinta masih tidak sepenuh hati.. Sejak itu aku aku selalu berdoa dalam setiap sujud moga Allah bantu aku, jadikan aku hamba mencintai Allah dan Rasulullah melebihi segala apa yang ada didunia dan akhirat. 

Dan Alhamdulillah, semalam Allah hantar aku pergi program Mahabbah Rasulullah, yang disampaikan oleh Imam muda Hassan. Aku tak tahu nak cakap macam mana.. aku tak tahu nak gambarkan macam mana... Sepanjang Imam muda Hassan bercerita tentang Rasulullah, tentang kehidupannya, akhlaknya terhadap orang lain.. Baginda sungguh mempesona.. ya Allah, aku rasa sedih sangat. Sepanjang beliau berceramah, aku rasa sebak, aku tahan air mata yang dah lama bergenang. Hati aku rasa sayu sangat, diri aku rasa malu teramat. 

Aku rasa malu... Malu pada diri sendiri, malu pada Allah. Macam mana diri ini dengan tak malunya sibuk memperkatakan tentang cinta kpd manusia, sedangkan Manusia yg selayaknya kita cintai ialah Rasulullah s.a.w.. Bagaimana hati ini sibuk mempersoalkan tentang cinta manusia, sedangkan sepatutnya sepenuh hati kita perlu mencintai Rasulullah, tapi aku tidak praktikkan.. Ya Allah, ya Rasulullah, maafkan aku yang salah meletakkan cinta dan hatiku... Maafkan aku...

Sedangkan masa Baginda sedang menjelang saat kewafatannya pun, baginda masih menyebut "ummati, ummati".. Betapa baginda amat kasih dan cinta pada kita umatnya, tapi bagaimana dengan kita? Sejauh mana cinta kita pada Rasullullah s.a.w? Ya Rasulullah, maafkan kami... 

Lepas habis program tu, sampai je dalam kereta aku, aku nangis sepuas- puasnya, seorang diri. Untuk pertama kalinya air mata aku jatuh kerana Rasulullah... Aku sedih.. aku malu... Aku malu jika selama ini aku jadi wanita Muslim, tetapi menjadi umat Rasulullah yang memalukan agama. Aku sedih kerana telah mencalarkan nama Rasulullah selama aku menjadi umatnya. Aku sedih sebab selama 23 tahun aku hidup, tapi kini aku baru belajar mencintai Rasulullah. 

Untuk sekian kalinya, aku bertekad, aku berazam bersempena awal Muharram ini, dengan izin Allah, aku ingin lebih mengenali dan belajar mencintai Rasulullah s.a.w sepenuh hati. Aku ingin belajar mencintai dan merindui Rasulullah segenap hati aku dulu sebelum aku belajar mencintai orang lain.. Aku benar- benar berdoa semoga Allah akan bantu menyuburkan rasa cinta aku pada Rasulullah dari hari ke hari.. 

In shaa Allah..

Aku jatuh cinta padamu ya Rasulullah...

اللَّهُمَّ صَلِّ عَلَى مُحَمَّدٍ وَعَلَى آلِ مُحَمَّدٍ

Allahumma salli `ala muhammadin wa`ala ali muhammad

p/s: Untuk sahabat semua, marilah kita belajar mencintai Rasulullah sepenuh hati dulu sebelum kita sibuk nak menyintai manusia lain... Semoga Allah tanamkan rasa cinta kita kepadaNya dan Rasulullah sepenuh hati dan iman kita. Aamiinn.. 

Avoiding the Haram Relationship

I came across with this beautiful story, with deep meaningful thought about the haram relationship before marriage. Just to be clear that, it is the relationship that is haram, but not the feeling of love. What I mean is that, we cannot hold or stop the feeling of love, since the feeling is from Allah. But one thing for sure, we can hold and stop ourselves from being involve into the haram relationship that may lead us to zina. I repeat, it MAY lead.

However,  Insyallah, with the help from Allah, may Allah always guide our steps not to go astray, Aamiin.. 

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source: http://www.facebook.com/AllahIAlwaysNeedYou

AN AMAZING STORY - LEAVE FORBIDDEN LOVE TODAY!

She decided to leave her boyfriend…
He asked her, not believing her decision: ”Are you leaving me? Are you going to walk away from me?”

Misbaah was in college and was having a whirlwind time,
bunking lectures and enjoying in the canteen and campus. She was so intelligent that she didn't need to dig in books for marks was the other advantage.

Dressed in jeans and shirt mostly her slim body with good facial features had attracted many boys too. Every boy wished to know her or be linked. Though she was very extrovert, she would be straightforward with boys, but slowly fell for Ahmed.

One teacher named Payal was their theory teacher whom she loved. She was a jovial and friendly teacher. But suddenly she was found very reserved and to herself. She would have mood swings and at times would be seen crying bitterly.

Misbaah approached her teacher after school and asked her the reason. Misbaah told her that she didnt want to interfere in her private life but she said that she came because the entire class seems there is something amiss with the teacher.

Payal wiped another big tear from her eyes and she whispered in Misbaah's ear "I have reverted to Islam, I am only telling you because you are a muslim" Misbaah said what's the big fuss? What makes u cry even i am a muslim i never cry"

Payal mam showed Misbaah what her parents had also never discussed with her. She showed her the Quran with translation and some verses she had marked ‘It is He who accepts repentance from His servants, and pardons bad deeds, and knows all that you do. And He answers those who have faith and do righteous deeds, and gives them- out of His bounty- far more.’ (al-Shura 42: 25-6)

But those who disbelieve say, “The Hour (i.e. the Day of Judgment) will not come to us.” Say, “Yes, by my Lord, it will surely come to you. [Allah is] the Knower of the unseen.” Not absent from Him is an atom’s weight within the heavens or within the earth or [what is] smaller than that or greater, except that it is in a clear register - That He may reward those who believe and do righteous deeds. Those will have forgiveness and noble provision. But those who strive against Our verses [seeking] to cause failure (i.e. to undermine their credibility) - for them will be a painful punishment of foul nature. (Quran, 34:3-5)

Misbaah drove home that day without talking to Ahmed. She herself was in deep thought. She thought "I just know I am a muslim but do not know where I belong. My name sounds muslim, just that inside I was empty."  SHE FELT LIKE I BECAME A NEW MUSLIM THAT DAY. First time in her life she faced the Kaaba and prayed that day. It was simply awesome she loved the time she spent with my creator.

Everyday she saw Miss Payal praying in the prayer room which she had never entered in years of her college life. She would cry and seek forgiveness and then again read Quran. Misbaah would accompany her teacher in her solitude.

Misbaah became aware of the purpose of life. "And I did not create the Jinn and mankind except to worship Me" (Quran, 51:56-58)

Very simple! The purpose for man’s creation is to worship the Creator. The essence of Allah’s message through all of the prophets also was:"Oh mankind, worship Allah, you have no deity other than Him". (Quran, 7:59,65,73,85)

An Nisa 56"Those who rejected Our revelations will soon be thrown into the fire. No sooner will their skins be burnt out then We shall replace their skins, so they may taste the real torment, Allah is All-Mighty, Wise."

An-Nisa 78:"No matter where you may be, death is going to reach you, even if you are in fortified towers..."

These aayats developed fear in her and made her tremble. But she was now close to her Lord. She understood that the world and its people are just a fantasy. She understood the real world.


However, Ahmed thought was "she is drifting away from me let me confront her and know all".

She had decided to leave her boyfriend.
He asked her, not believing her decision: ”Are you leaving me? Are you going to walk away from me?”
She answered: ”I am leaving disobedience of Allah and walking away from it”
He said:”you are going to miss me”
She said:”I am missing Hasanaat (good deeds) more than you”
“you will regret it one day” he said.

She replied: “I will regret our relationship on Judgment Day”
“Don’t you love me anymore?” he asked her.
“I did", she said, "but now the love of Allah filled my heart that I can’t find any place for your Haraam love in it”
Then she added:”and if you love Allah more than me, then just turn and walk away.” (♥)

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May Allah always protect us, develop a strong heart for us that filled with strong Iman to Allah. "Ya Allah, guide our steps to the right path, and don't let us go astray."